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Rules of Friendship

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I just finished Amy Sue Nathan’s debut novel, the Glass Wives. What a great story about two women that are thrown together under the most unusual circumstances. They were both married to the same man. Evie Glass is the ex-wife, but when Richard suddenly passes away, the widow, young Nicole  Glass, wants to be a part of Evie and her children’s lives.

The other theme that resonated with me was the friendship between Evie and her two good friends, Laney and Beth. They didn’t always get along, and a secret threatens to end their friendship. It made me think about how we define the rules of friendship. Does friendship mean that there are no secrets? Does it mean that your love should forgive anything? Most people say you can tell your friends by the ones that stick around during the hard times. I am not so sure that is the true test. People like to reach out and lend a hand to someone less fortunate or hurting. It makes them feel better about themselves. I think true friendship has more to do with sticking around when things are good, or boring, or uneventful.

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When was the last time one of your friends burst through your front (or back) door without knocking? When did you last call a friend with no agenda? I think of the sitcom, Two and a Half Men, (which is usually hysterical even if it is not appropriate for all audiences.) Remember the time Charlie stood outside his mother’s door talking into the security camera? “What do you want Charlie?” His reply: “Do I have a reason to see my own mother?” Do you need a reason to see your mother, or child, or best friend?

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Perhaps it is because our lives are so busy. Maybe it is a generational thing. Perhaps we have spouses to fill that spot as BFF. Personally, I miss the bond I had when my friend could stop over without calling first. I miss being able to pick up the phone for no reason other than I wanted to talk; about everything . . . or about nothing. Looking back, I think I have only had two friends in my entire life with that kind of relationship. You know who you are. Who are your Laney and Beth?

What is your definition of friendship? What are your rules?

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R is for Read

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Reading is my favorite hobby. When life is stressed, I read a book. When life is relaxed, I read a book. Pulling just a few of my favorite quotes about reading, I will share them with my comments.

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“A good book on your shelf is a friend that turns its back on you and remains a friend.”  ~Author Unknown

                So true. And it doesn’t get mad if I ignore it for a few years. I am a re-reader and eventually come to re-read my all-time favorites. They always welcome me back, no matter how long I have been gone.

“A book is the only place in which you can examine a fragile thought without breaking it, or explore an explosive idea without fear it will go off in your face. It is one of the few havens remaining where a man’s mind can get both provocation and privacy.”  ~Edward P. Morgan

                Without books, so many subjects would have gone unexplored. Things I didn’t even know I was interested in have expanded my horizons. All because of books.

The worth of a book is to be measured by what you can carry away from it.  ~James Bryce

                Through books, everyone can learn a new skill, become a better person, learn to love.

“Anyone who says they have only one life to live must not know how to read a book.”  ~Author Unknown

                This is my favorite quote. I am blessed with many friends, but books can take me to another life like no person can.

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What is your all-time favorite book? Mine is Sarah’s Key by Tatiana De Rosna.